Parents in times of crisis: How to divide childcare cleverly!

Parents in times of crisis: How to divide childcare cleverly!

When a child becomes ill, many parents often react instinctively without thinking twice. Nancy Meckert, an expert in balancing work and family, points out that without prior consultation, the obvious option is usually chosen. In most cases, the mother stays at home as she traditionally takes on a larger share of the care work and often works part-time. This makes her more willing to put her work commitments on hold.

However, this dynamic can quickly lead to tensions within the family. Meckert emphasizes how important it is for parents to act as a team in such moments. Instead of blaming each other, they should talk to each other early on in order to develop a clear plan for caring for their sick children. The following questions can help clarify the situation:

Teamwork is key

To effectively navigate the challenges, it is crucial that both parents disclose their career priorities. Who currently has more flexibility? Which solutions best suit the respective living conditions? Such conversations should not take place once, but should be revisited again and again. “You don’t even clarify that and that’s it,” explains Meckert. “Our needs change and we should regularly reflect on how we feel about the situation.” The most obvious choice is not always the best solution.

Another important point is checking stuck roller patterns. It can be beneficial to question whether everyone involved feels they are being treated fairly. Flexibility is the key word here. Parents can flexibly divide up the so-called children's sick days, for which the health insurance companies provide financial support. “Theoretically, it is possible to transfer children’s sick days to the other parent, provided both employers agree,” explains Petra Heinevetter from the Independent Patient Advice Germany (UPD). “The division can then be redesigned in the next calendar year.”

A well-thought-out plan and regular adjustments to individual needs can not only contribute to a better balance between work and family, but also to harmonious coexistence in family life.

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